Having a Baby Abroad – Global Differences Series: COLOMBIA

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Laura and her son

This week I talk to Laura who is English. She shares her experience of having a home birth in Colombia as part of the series The Global Differences of Baby-Making. Here is her story:


Tell me a bit about yourself? Where are you from? How old is your son and where did you have him?

I am mum to gorgeous 3 month old baby boy. I am English and my partner is Colombian and we had our little boy in our apartment in Bogotá, in the middle of the night.


Why did you have your children abroad? What do you feel were the benefits to having children abroad?

I work in the humanitarian sector and while working in Colombia I met my partner. When we decided we would love to have a baby together, there was no conscious decision about where to have the baby, we were in Colombia so I think we just assumed that is where we would have it. One of the perks of having a baby in Colombia is the very special treatment you get as a pregnant lady.

You are literally treated like a VIP, everyone does everything for you and you never have to queue for anything (which is great in a heavily bureaucratic country). Needless to say I became very lazy! Since having our little one I have found the attitude to breastfeeding very positive and there is no shame in breastfeeding in public and people are generally very accommodating.


As an expectant mother abroad how did you feel?

In general I felt fine about being abroad, I did miss my family and friends in the UK but then I always do.

The thing that affected my feelings the most was the health system I encountered here which I thoroughly disagree with and this resulted in me feeling very frustrated, sad and angry at points. I still struggle with the heavily privatised system, where quality and a say in your health comes at a very high price and is only available for a select few and I still become extremely vexed at how decisions are made on a purely money making basis and not in the interests of the patients (I could go on a length here).

Therefore in terms of my birth I felt absolutely distraught at the thought of going anywhere near a hospital.

After a lot of tears and despair we finally found one of the two doctors in Colombia who do “alternative births” with midwives (midwifery is not a recognised profession) and who place emphasis on partners having a say in there birthing process. As a result we had a very special experience that would not have happened in the UK with a midwife, a woman who is training to be a midwife and the doctor in our home. My partner cooked for everyone, the atmosphere was calm, we passed contractions in the garden, in the bath, walking in the living room and because this is not common in Colombia I think the relationships between all the people involved will be lifelong. We are not just a number of deliveries for the professionals involved, we are part of a very special group.


Did you encounter any opinions that would have been different in your home country with regards to your pregnancy or parenting choices?

I will try to be brief…… the biggy for me was that fathers are not allowed to be involved in the births. I find this incredible and we were given many different reasons why this is, including that Colombian men are weak! This ultimately led to our decision to have a home birth.

I then discovered that the most likely outcome during the birth here is a cesarean, we were actually told on more than one occasion that this is just easier and that the idea is to fill and then empty beds quickly! Many women are encouraged and choose to have cesareans. Women are given an epidural without question and there is very limited opportunity to have an active birth, all contractions must be done on your back.

One of my most shocking experiences was at an antenatal class where the teacher criticised arab countries methods of birth, making a racist and sexist comment about how terrible it must be to have women delivering your baby and even more so with their faces covered.

Now what is funny is had I been in the UK I would have without question had my baby in the hospital and I have to admit I think I would have considered an epidural but what angered me here is that I didn´t have a say, even an opportunity to be involved in my own delivery and I would have had to be on my own.


What advice would you give other mothers in your situation?

I would advise not only mothers and fathers from abroad but also those in Colombia or in similar health systems to look for a way to express their rights. You should have a say in your birth plan and your health.

Yes, you might not have a choice in the end, if there is an emergency, but this might not happen. Fathers at my antenatal group wanted to be part of the birth, my doctor admitted that where possible a natural and active birth is the healthy option and that a fathers presence is vitally important in building respect for women and reducing violence in the family, especially in a macho society.

What gives me hope is that the midwives in Colombia are petitioning the government to recognise their profession and the birth choices it brings with it. Birth and health practices in general should not be about what is easier and more cost effective but what is right for the person receiving the health services.



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6 thoughts on “Having a Baby Abroad – Global Differences Series: COLOMBIA

  1. Lorena Ortiz-Siller

    Thank you Laura for your birthday story. We were unaware men typically are not involved with the best part of the pregnancy! I live in Santa Marta and we are considering Cartagena as facilitators. My question is once the baby arrives, are the parents given Colombian citizenship as well? We are both gringos and were curious also to know if the baby can obtain dual citizenship too.
    Oh, do you know anything about Cartagena’s Medical City? Thanks again for your time! Wish us luck!

  2. Laura

    Hi Lorena I am afraid parents are not given Colombian citizenship to my knowledge. I am not married but even as the civil partner and mother to Colombians I need to have lived here for 5 years and then there is a Spanish and colombian general knowledge test. I am not sure about your baby….I am guessing that yes the baby will have Colombian citizenship and to register the birth you just need to go to the notaria…..you could easily check this in the notaria. I am afraid I know nothing about Cartagena´s Medical City so can´t help you there.
    Good luck with it all…..it is a truly amazing and special time…

  3. Melanie Home

    Thank you for sharing your experience, I am Colombian but lived in the UK for several years and really wanted to have a baby as soon as I found that special someone and got married, so I read a lot and educated myself on all things baby. Home delivery really appealed to me. When I returned home I met my husband, we got married and got pregnant soon after. I was very hopeful things would be here like they are in Europe, since we have a good health system (although highly privatized, as you said), and was appalled after finding out they were not!

    I wanted a hospital birth since I felt more assured in case something went wrong and it was my first baby. My doctor was recommended by one of my friends who had a cesarean (I should have suspected) and when I was 2 cms dilated and 38 weeks he sent me directly to hospital, without me having a chance to ask why or how things were going to be done, he immediately sent me to the ward with epidural and other medication orders, he later came in and ruptured my membranes, I began having contractions but did not feel much pain, and after 8 hours I had not dilated so I had to quickly sign the approval to have a cesarean in the midst of contractions that I had not felt before!

    I felt obviously happy that things had turned out OK but outraged at the same time since I could not have a say in my own delivery as I had expected. I wanted to formally raise a complaint but my husband advised me not to, since the doctor did his job well and our baby girl was healthy.

    After that experience I would definitely love to get in touch with your doctor, I am not pregnant yet but would love to have another baby soon and would love to have the same approach you had, should this may be possible in my case.

  4. ana

    I currently live in France and last year I had my first baby. I had planned everything to deliver at home with two midwives but one month before due date, I had to deliver at a hospital due to some health problems and I didn’t have a say either in my own delivery.
    My next baby I would like to have it in Colombia and as naturally as possible. Could you please share the info of the two doctors that do alternative births, or any information that could help me find a midwife or something like that in Colombia?!! I hope I may have the same type of delivery you did. Thanks! Ana

  5. Annette

    Hey Laura, my husband and I are currently living Bogota (we are both from the States) and are thinking of adding another baby to our family. I had both my other two kiddos at home and would love to do that here too. Could you send me some information on what doctor/midwife you would recommend here?


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